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Kevin Johnson, FACHE
Mountain View Hospital
Bob Cash, FACHE
University of Utah Hospitals and Clinics
Donít Let Toxic Beliefs Hold You Back|
Self-talk is driven by critical beliefs that you hold about yourself and is manifested in the things that you think as you move through your day. It plays an understated but powerful role in your ability to succeed, because your beliefs can both spur you forward toward achieving your goals and hold you back. As Henry Ford said, “He who believes he can and he who believes he cannot are both correct.”
When it comes to self-talk, there are six toxic beliefs that hold people back more than any others. Be mindful of your tendencies to succumb to these beliefs, so they don't derail your career.
Toxic Belief #1: Perfection=SuccessHuman beings, by our vary nature, are fallible. When perfection is your goal, you're always left with a nagging sense of failure, and end up spending your time lamenting what you failed to accomplish, instead of enjoying what you were able to achieve.
Toxic Belief #2: My Destiny Is PredeterminedFar too many people succumb to the highly irrational idea that they are destined to succeed or fail. Make no mistake about it, your destiny is in your own hands, and blaming multiple successes or failures on forces beyond your control is nothing more than a cop out. Sometimes life will deal you difficult cards to play, and others times you'll be holding aces. Your willingness to give your all in playing any hand you're holding determines your ultimate success or failure in life.
Toxic Belief #3: I “Always” or “Never” Do ThatThere isn't anything in life that you always or never do. You may do something a lot or not do something enough, but framing your behavior in terms of “always” or “never” is a form of self-pity. It makes you believe that you have no control of yourself and will never change. Don't succumb to it.
Toxic Belief #4: I Succeed When Others Approve of MeRegardless of what people think of you at any particular moment, one thing is certain—you're never as good or bad as they say you are. It's impossible to turn off your reactions to what others think of you, but you can reconcile the opinion of others with your own perspective. That way, no matter what people think about you, your self-worth comes only from within.
Toxic Belief #5: My Past=My FutureRepeated failures can erode your self-confidence and make it hard to believe you'll achieve a better outcome in the future. Most of the time, these failures result from taking risks and trying to achieve something that isn't easy. Just remember that success lies in your ability to rise in the face of failure. Anything worth achieving is going to require you to take some risks, and you can't allow failure to stop you from believing in your ability to succeed.
Toxic Belief #6: My Emotions=Reality
You need to know how to take an objective look at your feelings and separate fact from fiction. Otherwise, your emotions will continue to skew your sense of reality, making you vulnerable to the negative self-talk that can hold you back from achieving your full potential
If you can overcome the self-defeating beliefs above, you'll make great strides in improving your self-talk.
—Adapted from “Six Toxic Beliefs That Will Ruin Your Career” by Travis Bradberry, PhD, www.talentsmart.com
UHE Panel Discussion
Developing High Performance Teams
February 19, 2013
Lakeview Hospital, Bountiful